Why can't I?
Why can't I strike a good conversation with any body? I was told by the daycare provider today that my son is a very good friend to one of the kid there and they said it right in front of the kid’s parents. I smiled at the day care provider, said bye to my son and walked off.
Then in the car while I was driving back, I was thinking what all I could have said to his parents. I could have had a good friendly conversation with his parents. At least I could have smiled at them. I am such an introvert.
7 comments:
Don't fret. Your not the only one. I don't know how many times I think of something to say after the fact.
Thank You moment! It's nice to know that I am not the only one.
You are not alone, count me too. Oh boy! I have ignored few girls those that I could have asked out, how regrettable.
I have been in that situation too.
You have so much knowledge about many things and you can talk very sensibily about anything. But a quick converstation in situations like the one you have mentioned calls for totally different approach. You are not the only one to have experienced this, but if you really feel that you should get better at it, you can definetely achieve it. I might sound a bit pedagogical but do this for a starter :
1) Look at the eyes of the other person and always say something like "Thats Great", "Wonderful", "Excellent" or all three.
2) Talk about the weather. Some common phrases you can use are "Are you prepared for this winter", "Beautiful weather outside and sad that we are inside" etc.
3) Another common question to ask to initiate a converstation is "Any vacation plans coming up".
4) A good place to practice all these and get better is in the slow elevator when you riding with just another person whom you don't know.
These common phrases that we use to initiate a converstation will give us time to think about what to say next or will enable the other person to ask us something for us to reply.
Try that for a month and let us know if you are getting better at it.
Thanks. I'll give it a try.
Your point 1 is what i like the most. I usually feel awkward making an eye to eye conversation. I should get over it.
Well everybody has problems or I should say we all have our own challenges. I don't have problem talking or asking people what I want or what I don't want. My problem is when it comes to write, I am not sure if I can write what I could or would have spoken face to face. Going through your blogs I can say have done excellent job of expressing yourself. Good job.
Thanks 'anonymous'. You made my day.
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